Littlepuppet (original poster member #83426) posted at 6:57 PM on Friday, August 1st, 2025
I don't remember exactly what my treatment was like three years ago; it was brief, 8 to 10 sessions. My IC told me about the ghost of loss (fear of...).
Then we quickly came to the conclusion that life is about that: loss, and that it's not total, but partial.
Then comes the decision-making part, but that's what made me change my mind.
What was your experience?
Theevent ( member #85259) posted at 7:10 PM on Friday, August 1st, 2025
My IC has mostly served as a person to talk things out with and get different perspectives from. This is because we have elected to keep her affair mostly a secret, so there are very few people i can confide in about it. His wife also cheated on him so he understands first hand what it's like, and its super helpful to talk to another who went through something similar. Same reason this site is so useful!
Also my IC is a resource when I'm having a crisis, and need advice ASAP.
Im actually considering the idea that I'm mostly past the crisis point and should find a specialist to help me instead.
What did you change your mind about?
[This message edited by Theevent at 7:16 PM, Friday, August 1st]
Me - BH D-day 4/2024 age 42Her - WW EA 1/2023, PA 7/2023 - 6/2024, age 40 Married 18 years, 2 teenage children Trying to reconcile
Littlepuppet (original poster member #83426) posted at 7:10 PM on Monday, August 4th, 2025
Theevent, my English is poor, and my writing is too concise.
Changing my mind isn't about going from thinking about Divorce to Reconciliation in my particular case.
But rather about seeing, in general terms, that a loss can also become an opportunity. It's not the end of the world; there's no reason to be afraid.
I don't know if I'm making myself clear.
My particular case (of trauma) may have finally ended in Reconciliation, after a brief MC this month.
Fortunately, it was stopped in time at the beginning; it didn't become an adventure.
The topic I want to address is: What made you change your thinking from anger, depression, etc., to a more positive one during IC?