Fracturedfool (original poster new member #84734) posted at 2:08 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2025
Lately I find myself looking for things to make myself feel better. As I get no or little affection any more I look for instant gratification in other ways, like online shopping. I know, I know this is not necessarily a good thing. I live in a little house that’s already full but cannot help myself at times. As I have a disability it’s hard to get out and walk or go to a gym. My friends and family live far away. However I don’t want to turn into a hoarder either. Just say in’. 
Me BS 70 WH 72 M 42 yrs Together 52 yrs D days 1976-1979 New D day Jan 1 2023
Should have believed what he was the first time
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 6:35 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2025
I'm disabled too and can't exercise, so I get that part. If you want a way to feel good that's less likely to turn you into a hoarder, I recommend video games (just don't play the ones where they keep asking you for money!). :)
Connecting with friends via video chats is another healthy outlet for me. I make it a point to schedule the next chat at the end of each call so too much time doesn't go by (or set up a regular weekly day & time to "meet").
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov '22. Dday4 Sep '23. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Living separately as of Mar '25.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 8:29 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2025
Can you join an online group for a hobby or something you like to do that meets virtually?
How about knitting blankets for hospitals or veterans. Donate time to a charity by helping to raise $ via an online campaign.
Hope this helps.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
SadieMae ( member #42986) posted at 2:44 PM on Thursday, April 10th, 2025
I found myself turning to some mindless phone games to clear my head. I made sure to choose games that didn't cost money and were easy to win. My favorite was a game called "Flood It." It was stress-free and enjoyable, allowing me to just click and unwind.
Good luck to you!
Me: BW D-day 3/9/2014
TT until 6/2016
TT again Fall 2020
Yay! A new D-Day on 11/8/2023 WTAF
3yrsout ( member #50552) posted at 4:24 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2025
I second the video game idea. The only reason I have survived is playing video games online. When I’m mad, I shoot things, lol. It helps. And my player is my alter ego. I build houses and fantasize about how I could live there alone without anyone else doing fuckery bullshit.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 5:37 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2025
I also play an online game. We have guilds with 40 members and over the years, I've made friends with several.
An old co-worker of mine found a stuffed car pattern she could make which used chenille bedspread material for the cat body. She'd make them and donate to the police. When they had to work with children, they used the stuffed animals to help comfort the child.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
